By Chris Alvarez
How do you find interacting with the opposite sex without alcohol?
Its strange, I used to need “Man in a Can” to be able to interact with girls. I had no confidence. I thought nothing of myself. My ego told me drink and then maybe girls would like me, it worked for a night or two, but then it didn’t.
Alcohol was a tool I used to get over my anxiety and low self-esteem. It was useful until it wasn’t and then it just hurt me and degraded me. The very thing I was using to help me feel better and give me “confidence” was just bringing me down. There was a point when I realized this but couldn’t stop drinking on my own.
However once I stopped drinking and began to work on myself my confidence level skyrocketed. Now that I am sober I don’t need “man in a can”. Sometimes I’m overconfident, to the point where I think I’m to good for anyone; or at least to good for the girls I am purusing. This causes me problems because I get frustrated when they don’t like me back. I wonder, “why don’t you like me, any girl would be lucky to be with me and you don’t even realize it”. This is the same ego that used to tell me to drink because I wasn’t good enough for anybody. This thinking can cause me to act in jealous irrational ways and must be stopped before it can do any harm.
I don’t like everyone and not everyone has to like me. When I remember this, it’s easy for me to interact with the opposite sex. Now it’s all me, no more “Man in a can”, people are just people and I have nothing to worry about.
(To be continued)
By Chris Alvarez
Why do all the “deadbeats”, the people that disappoint us, the people that fall get so much attention? And the winners, the people that succeed, those who try so hard to do the next right thing get little to no attention for their actions? In the “real world” this isn’t the case but in the world of recovery it’s the sad truth.
Do people root for the underdog or do they look at them as a way of seeing how much better off they are. Do they see a part of themselves in that person who just cant seem to do anything right? But the people, who do succeed, the ones doing the right thing, are they less worthy of attention? Shouldn’t they receive some praise for their success? The incredibly successful ones, the top one percent of the top one percent do get attention but that’s such a tiny number of people.
a little attention please
Now I guess being awarded or acknowledged for doing the right thing isn’t needed; doing the right thing should be reward enough, but is giving attention to those who do “bad shit” for attention the “right” thing to do? Probably not, but most people do it anyways.
I try not to give into those who crave attention and act out in all the wrong ways. I see myself as a beacon of light for those in the dark. I never venture into the dark, I let those in the dark see the light and come to me. Am I doing the right thing? Who knows we all see life through a different lens. Let us know what you think about this post and remember giving someone attention might send the wrong message but… it might send the right one too.